can someone explain this to me?

What I don't get, right now, is why we're all being super-sad about the kids who bowed to homophobic bullying and killed themselves, but super-judgemental about the paper who bowed to homophobic bullying and apologised for announcing a gay wedding. I must have seen a dozen posts in the last hour badmouthing that paper.

If they got bullied into doing what they did...why are we blaming them? Aren't they also victims of bullying? Okay, if they actually changed their minds and decided that Teh Gheyz are Ebil, that's one thing. We can be judgemental about that. But why aren't we first asking them just what these mysterious rabbis threatened? Telling them that it doesn't matter what the rabbis said, we'll support them? Pushing to know who these rabbis are?

Why are we blaming the victim?

Can we stop it, please?

Limmud 30

The Soferet is going to Limmud 30, people!

What do you think I should present?

Mirrored from hasoferet.com.

Cleaning up after Succot

We had an Enormous Challah-Baking Splurge before yom tov, and anything that's left now is really past eating. Also, the fridge contains a lot of courgettes and carrots whose fellows were ingredients in other things, and of course there are all those etrogim.

So this evening I'm making a bread pudding (we have custard powder), a carrot-and-courgette soup, and etrog marmalade (scaries about pesticides notwithstanding; this is New York City, I probably ingest more poison daily just by breathing than I'd get from eating a zillion etrogim).

And all these are things which have a long simmering, soaking, or baking stage, so I can play on the internet wash the succah mud off the floor while they're cooking.