In one course, released online in May, a quiz asked doctors to diagnose the condition of a 42-year-old working mother who takes care of three children and her own sick mother, and who had no desire for sex. (Her husband is mentioned only in passing.)
The correct answer? Schedule a follow-up visit to evaluate whether she has diagnosable hypoactive sexual desire disorder. (NY Times)
How about, she's in a life situation where her own needs and desires have to come last of all her priorities because otherwise she will be branded by society as a Bad Mother, a Bad Daughter, a Bad Employee, a Bad Homemaker and a Bad Wife? Really, would it come as any surprise that she might not be so interested in sex? You know, sex, that thing that's about desire and gratification and enjoyment and trust and other things she's carefully schooling herself not to expect?
In other words, her libido is doing exactly what you might expect, and we should make that a medical problem and tell her she's Sick and Problematic and Needs Medicating?
This sort of thing makes me angry.
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